“Check on your strong friends. Check on your quiet friends. Check on your ‘happy’ friends. Check on your creative friends. Check on each other.”

– Lauren Warren

Happy Sunday, Fam! 💕

This week, our hearts danced strong for the recent losses our country endured. Anthony Bourdain, you were a source of inspiration and adventure. Kate Spade, a visionary and guiding light for women everywhere.

The Center for Disease has reported suicide rates increasing in nearly every U.S. state over the past two decades, and half of the states have seen suicide rates go up more than 30% — this is a major public health issue. Click here to find prevention strategies, start advocating for better healthcare and mental health coverage, and of course, keep connecting, loving, listening, and checking in with one another as much as possible.

Moving forward, we have hope for a brighter summer. We are ten days into Pride month, y’all! 🙏🏳️‍🌈 It’s been almost 50 years since the Stonewall Riots which means that for almost 50 years now, we have continued to uplift and make strides in the LGBTQ community. Yesss. 💪There’s still work to do, of course, but this month we choose to celebrate the wins this epic community has seen and all the wins we know are coming in the near future.

Ok fam, that’s all for now. Keep scrolling for this week’s dance floor tale, tunes to start your day dancing, noodles about friendship in adulthood (because sometimes it’s hard) and community events.🤗

With endless love & mischief,
// Team Daybreaker

❣️DANCING AS A NECESSITY❣️

I’ve been dancing since the age of four, and I’ve grown to consider it a necessity. Dancing is my mental escape that takes me out of my overthinking, clouded brain and reconnects me to my body. It’s a unique moment where I am not thinking about my day-to-day worries. I believe that most people, myself included, go through our days with our minds disconnected from our movement — walking, lifting, and reaching are so habitual. We rarely meditate on the grace and power of the human form, yet there is so much value in this. Dance reaffirms my physical scope✨ – this consistently reminds me of the powerful, present body that I occupy and control. I believe this has conditioned my confidence and self-worth.

Daybreaker is a special experience because an encouraging community spirit is superimposed onto the personal adventure that I believe dance offers. I have been encouraged by people on the dance floor; I have hugged strangers on the dance floor, and I have jumped so wildly and freely knowing that I’m surrounded by people who celebrate authenticity and just living your life. 💃

As a female sophomore in college, finding a space that encourages dance without a veil of sexual pursuit and for the sole purpose of enjoyment is rare. This type of environment encourages more expression and goofiness because there isn’t pressure to move in a ‘sexy’ way. Daybreaker vibes are welcoming and refreshing; they create a judgement free space.💕

Despite the non-sexual vibes at a Daybreaker event, you can still catch me wildly shaking my bum-bum at all the memorable parties.

See you on the dance floor!

With love & mischief,
// Jessie

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ON: The Quest For Adult Friendships: Some say finding friends in elementary school, high school, college etc. was easier. In most cases, we shared similar circumstances, and friendships often sprouted from geographical convenience. The world was not yet necessarily at our fingertips, and most of our friendships were the result of who was sitting next to us in homeroom.

If finding your tribe as we “adult together” feels a bit more challenging, know you’re not alone. A series of longitudinal studies says it’s normal. However, it doesn’t mean you can’t change it!

Here are a few things to noodle over while you soldier on into new friend zones…

🕰 It’s Only A Matter of Time (90 hrs to be exact)

A report published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships suggests it takes 90 hours to turn a stranger into a friend. This can be anything from grabbing coffee together, running errands, walking in the park — any time you are each proactively choosing to be together. Building friendships is a choice (and it’s worth it!) Try committing to putting time into it each week. Be choosey. Pick the peeps you truly find interesting, and take a chance.

🤔 Notice What Type of Friend You Are — Then Leverage It

As we 20-somethings, 30-somethings and 40-somethings move through life, we make and keep friends in different ways. Julie Beck of The Atlantic describes it pretty clearly: “some are independent, they make friends wherever they go, and may have more friendly acquaintances than deep friendships. Others are discerning, meaning they have a few best friends they stay close with over the years, but the deep investment means that the loss of one of those friends would be devastating. The most flexible are the acquisitive—people who stay in touch with old friends, but continue to make new ones as they move through the world.” Notice where you stand among these three types and get intentional about how you stay in touch and meet new people.

🤗 Embrace the In-Between

If your friend pool isn’t swimming and brimming, that’s ok! They say it’s not our life circumstances that make us unhappy; it’s our thoughts about them. Recognize this current timeframe as a phase where you’re finding your way, trying things on, and figuring out what you really want in a friend. When the time is right, trust that the right people will cross your path. In the meantime, find the closest happy thought you can rely on. If it’s that a new, interesting, fun friend is en route — go with that thought! Inevitably, it will happen.

All right y’all — to friendship. 🥂 (those are filled with kombucha, obvies).

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Feelin’ it.

#morningmischief